Letting go the pacifier doesn’t have to be a drama. The trick is the previous preparation.
1 °. Set the last day. (It should be 2 or 3 months (minimum) for preparation)
2 °. Define the process. (Eg: Give to Santa, Go hang in the garden tree for the storks to take, etc.)
3 °. Start detachment: a) reduce the amount of time that the child has the pacifier and encourage her/him to withdraw it from her/him mouth; b) begin to show the difference between babies and grown-ups; c) gradually limit free access to the pacifier that should be reserved for tantrums and sleep time; d) from times to times simulate the loss of the pacifier (not finding it at bedtime, for example)
The child should be encouraged to either give or deliver the pacifiers (all of them) on the last defined day. During the whole process, it is important to evaluate the child’s reactions and to praise all the active attitudes that the child demonstrates (ex: “Great, you took off the pacifier), but avoid highlighting the passive ones (ex: do NOT say “Great, you spent all day without your binky”). It’s important that all caregivers are aligned in the way they act.
Lots of “binkies” (pacifiers) in the freezer! (and change it several times for a cold one…)
P.S. Stay away from healers from the drug store. If it’s too complicated ask for some smoothing gel for teething with chamomile and apply it with your very clean finger and let the baby bite you because it helps relieve the discomfort.
P.P.S. When it is the first tooth it doesn’t hurt to let him/her bite you, with the followings it’s better to give them the teethers. It is also time to stop buying silicone pacifiers or bottle teats and start buying rubber ones (they are more resistant to sharp teeth). There are certain types of silicone that are already resistant to the bite, do not break so easily and are more elastic. If you can pull by the bottle teat/pacifier and stretch it, then this silicone is resistant to teeth. This should not stop you from paying attention to any signs of wear and tear that may occur in the meantime.
IMPORTANT NOTE: The pacifiers must be thoroughly dried before going to the freezer. If they get ice on it they should not be given directly to the baby.
Many parents face this doubt and, like much other life’s issues, you have to make a decision. You should not offer only because… Does every baby need a pacifier? There are a bunch of them who never have touch one and “survived”.
It’s not mandatory to use a pacifier. It was invented more than 2 centuries ago and, as we can still assume by its name, it was created to soothe babies. And, we must tell you, it’s very effective!
The sucking reflex is innate, that is, the (full-term) baby is born with the ability to suck whatever is placed in its mouth. This ability is what allows the baby to feed itself outside of the womb, that is, to nurse. And it’s precisely this fact that can cause problems when introducing a pacifier too early. It activates the reflex that allows the baby to feed itself by not feeding it … Therefore, the pacifier should not be introduced before the proper establishment of breastfeeding. It is only when the mother and baby are perfectly comfortable with breastfeeding and this is happening without any associated difficulties that you should consider to introduce (or not) the pacifier.
Pros: It helps to soothe the baby when it is sleepy or having a tantrum. There is some evidence that shows some protection from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) when used during the night after the 1st month of life (till 6th months).
Cons: It’s an addition. They will (probably) need our help to deal with it in future. Can cause allergies (to latéx, to drool, etc.) It’s easily a source of microbes (virus, bacterias, etc.) Less hygienic.
There are only a few things in life there are “all or nothing” but like everything else in life, it’s a decision that has to be made and this one should be discussed by both parents.