Lots of “binkies” (pacifiers) in the freezer! (and change it several times for a cold one…)
P.S. Stay away from healers from the drug store. If it’s too complicated ask for some smoothing gel for teething with chamomile and apply it with your very clean finger and let the baby bite you because it helps relieve the discomfort.
P.P.S. When it is the first tooth it doesn’t hurt to let him/her bite you, with the followings it’s better to give them the teethers. It is also time to stop buying silicone pacifiers or bottle teats and start buying rubber ones (they are more resistant to sharp teeth). There are certain types of silicone that are already resistant to the bite, do not break so easily and are more elastic. If you can pull by the bottle teat/pacifier and stretch it, then this silicone is resistant to teeth. This should not stop you from paying attention to any signs of wear and tear that may occur in the meantime.
IMPORTANT NOTE: The pacifiers must be thoroughly dried before going to the freezer. If they get ice on it they should not be given directly to the baby.
“When I give him a supplement, he sleeps rested because he was VERY hungry!”
Clarification: All babies cry! Crying is the only form of communication they have at their disposal. If we count the hours that we speak or express ourselves by gestures and facial expressions, perhaps the baby does not even cry as much. The baby cries because he is hungry (right) but also because he is too cold/hot, has a dirty diaper, wants attention/rest, or stimuli or is stressed by excessive stimuli. Summing up: it cries for everything and anything else.
Crying after breastfeeding is very common, especially in the more active babies. Just as we do when we eat in a hurry, we delay to feel satiety, so do babies. Between the stomach being full and the brain receiving this information go a few minutes (even 1/2 hour). Therefore, it is not usually a sign of hunger, but rather a sign of too much avidity in breastfeeding.
Breastmilk is the only food your baby is prepared to digest, so it is natural that in 1h30 it has already digested it all and wanted more. Giving supplementation only makes them sleep more because the digestion effort is so high that it ends up giving drowsiness. Realize that it is not a healthy sleep, it is another compulsory siesta so that the baby can digest the artificial milk. The breastfed baby is able to establish better and faster the sleep routine (it is understood to sleep all night) than a baby fed with artificial milk, which alternates between feeding and sleeping naps, day or night.
The hunger/good feeding of babies is not evaluated by crying but by the number of diapers soiled per day and weight gain (whether 5 g / day or 60 g / day, if increased, it’s growing and feeding well). By the way, babies do not always get fat every week, not even in proportion to what they got from food, but to the level of growth at that time. Growth works by peaks and it’s not an exponential increase.
There are good stories, there are bad stories and there are very scary stories… Of course, the passage of time helps to flourish the memory and anyone who tells a story adds something extra and if there is something a mother always likes to tell is her childbirth story (no matter if it’s a good or bad memory).
Until I was a mother for the first time, I always enjoyed listening to those stories but I always kept that doubt of… hum … will this be how they tell it will?
After being a mother, I began to give another kind of attention to these stories and began to find a common denominator in the worst stories: lack of preparation!
It is not called labor to childbirth by coincidence. Mother and child have to collaborate in the most delicate, sensitive and abrupt work of their lives.
And now tell me: what is the likelihood of a job being well done if the person is not prepared for it? The baby comes pre-programmed and even then it doesn’t always go well … what if the mother doesn’t help? And what if the mother thought that the preparation for childbirth was just uninteresting? And what if at the time when the baby needs to relax, the mother strengthens and compresses it? What if, when the baby needs well-oxygenated blood, the mother is busy screaming? And what if when the baby needs that extra help to get out the mother, she is spending her energy clinging (to something: bed, father’s hand, etc …) with all the strength she has instead of channelling it to the pelvic muscles?
And for those who think that in the second child we already know what we are going to, I have not yet heard two birth stories of exactly the same. Did you?
Do you know about those days when the kids wake up with fully charged batteries and seem to just screw up everything they touch and we just scream around:
-Don’t do that! -Don’t go there! -Do not climb to that chair! -Don’t throw away all the toys! -No, no, no …
Do you know what I mean? Yeah… We all go through this! Sometimes it seems like they just want to tease us, don’t they? How to avoid? Is it even possible? Yes, it is! We can avoid it!
Notice the following: Did we tell them what they could do, at some point? Do we guide them to safe play? Or did we make any constructive suggestions that they could use? No, we just barred activities without giving them any alternatives…
In another and completely different context, I have learned to use positive discourse as a form of communication that does not raise psychological barriers to commercial speech. The truth is that it works miracles with children.
Try to start replacing the “no” with “what”. For example: “Do not do this!” Replace with: “-What you can do is …” It sounds simple, doesn’t it?
Well, the truth is that applying it to 100% requires daily training and is easier if we apply it generically and not just in particular situations (such as just to deal with children only). In fact, I assure you that you will notice how everyone begins to react to you in a different way, being less negative and more cooperative.
Go on, try it!
P.S. Scream also doesn’t help… Use a calm and assertive tone.
All Hospitals have the famous list of “what to pack to a hospital birth”. And if it is true that we should always consult the specific list of where we intend to have our child(ren), it is also true that many of these lists need to be properly filtered. Things like knowing whether they supply or we need to bring bath towels, baby sheets, clothing/gown to the birth room, are important to avoid carrying unnecessary items.
However, products like “silicone nipples”, “pacifiers”, “abdominal binder”, which are unnecessary should not even come on the famous lists. However, there is some advice that is not essential at all, but I usually give in my training on the subject and that I share here with you today. 😊
There is a cosmetic product that should be part of every hospital list for birth but that is often overlooked … the “anti-dark circles”. In the hospital, the ex-pregnant/new mom spends the first of many sleepless nights. Whether it is a labor that occurs and/or lingers through the night, or through alternating and/or simultaneous interminable crying of all babies (including our own) or the cocktail of released hormones they leave you on the alert for any sigh whose volume is higher than the sound of a feather to fall, or simply because we are in contemplation of all the details of our latest masterpiece of art. And, in Motherhood, every day is a photo “to remember later” day, so we do not want to remember also the dark circles and the proof of difficult nights.
And speaking of photographic moments, it never hurts to remember that battery chargers, extra batteries, memory cards and the various accessories needed for proper recording of the time should never be forgotten.
Blood collection kits and/or umbilical cord, if they have made that decision, can not be forgotten. It is from those things that there is only a single moment to be used and there is no return to give in case of forgetfulness.
Food & Beverage. The truth is that “hospital food” is “hospital food” … it is usually insipid and has fixed times (there is no buffet 24/7). However, we have not yet figured out how to schedule (small) birth hours. Therefore, we can even spend several hours in labor and not eating, which does not mean that we will have all the meals that we skipped waiting for us when we go to the hospital room (postpartum). Therefore, speak the voice of experience, take some snacks in the bag, some crackers/cereal bars, some juice/milk and a bottle of water.
Magazines and/or non-maternity books because if it is true that many pregnant women have already “devoured” all the thematic literature existing during pregnancy, it is also true that those first days can give a bump in the impact of becoming a mother and responsible for a new Being that we put in the world. So, to have something that we can use that allows us to remember that we are equal (but different) to what we were before being mothers. Something that allows us to take a break from the intensive world of motherhood is something that I consider important.
Babies and children, in general, tend to react in response to the reaction of their main caregivers, that is, no matter how much it may cost us at first, we should not react with distress to every fall/trip or others from our little bundles of joy.
1º Assess the situation
2º Evaluate the reaction of the little one
3º If we have to intervene, try not to enlarge the situation
Ex: If we are in a boat that seems to be in trouble and the captain is panicking, what will be our reaction? What if he seems to be calm in solving the problem? Yeah … and we’re adults
The newborn’s clothing should be washed with hypoallergenic (unscented) detergents. It must be rinsed with clean water after washing (in the machine, choose the program with more rinses). It must be dry to the sun, the sun rays disinfect. It should not be left to dry on windy days, it accumulates dust.
It must be completely ironed on both sides (reverse and right) to disinfect. The complete seedlings should be stored in closed bags as they are taken to the maternity ward so that it is more practical to access (do not go to the drawer to get the body, to the shelf to get the pants, to the chest of drawers to look for the babygrow …).
Finally, it should be organized by sizes. Measure the parts for each other and not rely on the labels (there are big differences between brands for supposedly equal sizes). In the early days, everything that saves time is extremely valuable. The previous organization saves a looooooooooooooooot of time!
In the case of a rash, it is not possible to use wipes on the diaper change and it is good to always wash with water
When there is a rash, or a redness, erythema, fungal or bacterial infection, in the diaper region, there is always someone who recommends that the skin should be washed with only water on all diaper changes. Like all generalist recommendations, this is one more that can screw all up.
Think about it: what would your skin look like if you take 6 to 8 baths a day? Water as harmless as it may seem can lead to excessive dryness of the skin. This, if in a healthy skin already requires extra hydration measures, if on already injured skin can potentiate the appearance of other problems associated with the loss of integrity of the skin barrier which, due to excessive dryness. It loses the fat layer (sebum / first barrier), loses the layer of dead cells (cornea / second barrier), thus become more exposed to viruses/fungi/bacteria, etc. Therefore, and in any affection of the diaper area, the most important is to minimize contact of the skin with stool and urine, either using more absorbent diapers (called “dry diaper”) or increasing the rate of exchange (ideally immediately after each use of the diaper). It is also important to ensure proper hygiene, removing all debris, and, finally, providing the skin with the ideal conditions for rapid regeneration.
Disposable Diapers Cause Allergies
In theory, any and all substances can cause allergy on a susceptible skin. And here we can include the metal of the reusable snap fasteners, the detergent impregnated in the cotton of it, the elastic ( from both disposable and reusable), etc…
The universe of diapers is something that can not be missed by any new family. Starting with the quantity, types, models, environmental and economic impact, something as simple as a diaper, can take hours of sleep and rest to the future parents and have a real impact on the health and well-being of the baby.
Let’s go, step by step…
Amount: A newborn can need between 8 and 12 diapers a day. Further forward decreases slightly but never drops more than 5 a day until about 2/3 years.
Types and Models: There are disposable (use and throw away after it) diapers and reusable (wear, wash and reuse) diapers. In the disposables, there are those of fast absorption, those of great capacity for longer periods (ex: night), the ones of absorption by the fibers (less effective to keep your baby dry), the ones of polymers (better at isolate the humidity), the biodegradable ones, the specific ones to use in water (ex: swimming pool, sea), the diapers of adhesives and pull-ups like underwear (that help in the transition to leave the diapers). In the reusable ones, there are the one-size adjustable ones (accompanying the child’s growth), the traditional ones in various sizes, the pocket ones (they have absorbents that are inserted in an inner pocket), those integrated with bathing suits for use in water (ex: pool, sea, …), etc …
Environmental and Economic Impact: Obviously, non-biodegradable disposables are the ones which increase the most our ecological footprint by far. The practicality is paid with environmental impact. Halfway there are biodegradable disposables that, while not 100% degradable, always relieve our ecological conscience. The footprint gets smaller with reusable ones, of course. However, we must not forget the necessary washes, the pollution of water with detergents, the consumption of electricity, etc … right? Economically speaking, every option has a big impact on the family budget. The reusable ones require a higher initial investment that is monetized later (and especially when the second child arrives), the disposables require a regular and more or less constant expenditure over 2 to 3 years.
And myths related to diapers… Do you know some? Lookup for our next post… 😉
Many parents face this doubt and, like much other life’s issues, you have to make a decision. You should not offer only because… Does every baby need a pacifier? There are a bunch of them who never have touch one and “survived”.
It’s not mandatory to use a pacifier. It was invented more than 2 centuries ago and, as we can still assume by its name, it was created to soothe babies. And, we must tell you, it’s very effective!
The sucking reflex is innate, that is, the (full-term) baby is born with the ability to suck whatever is placed in its mouth. This ability is what allows the baby to feed itself outside of the womb, that is, to nurse. And it’s precisely this fact that can cause problems when introducing a pacifier too early. It activates the reflex that allows the baby to feed itself by not feeding it … Therefore, the pacifier should not be introduced before the proper establishment of breastfeeding. It is only when the mother and baby are perfectly comfortable with breastfeeding and this is happening without any associated difficulties that you should consider to introduce (or not) the pacifier.
Pros: It helps to soothe the baby when it is sleepy or having a tantrum. There is some evidence that shows some protection from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) when used during the night after the 1st month of life (till 6th months).
Cons: It’s an addition. They will (probably) need our help to deal with it in future. Can cause allergies (to latéx, to drool, etc.) It’s easily a source of microbes (virus, bacterias, etc.) Less hygienic. Some models can cause deformities in the teeth and thus cause difficulties in speech, chewing, breathing, etc …
There are only a few things in life there are “all or nothing” but like everything else in life, it’s a decision that has to be made and this one should be discussed by both parents.